Bria and I were discussing how to be opinionated and incisively observant on parenting topics without preaching, without condemning, without opinions implying judgment. And I think it’s really hard. Thus, my disclaimer, to be assumed to be before anything I ever say or write.
I’m not saying you’re doing anything wrong. I’m not saying I’m doing anything right. I’m not saying I know better. I’m not saying I’m smarter. I’m not saying I’m more of a feminist or you’re a bad feminist. I’m not saying you should do it my way. I’m not saying you’re a bad mom. I’m not saying I have it figured out. I’m not saying I’m right. I’m not saying I won’t change my mind.
But we all know that in the subconscious mind, there are no negatives. So, what AM I saying?
I’m saying this is tricky. This is multi-faceted. This elicits strong emotions. This is important. I’m saying I’m generally a moral/parenting relativist. I’m saying, “Whatever works for you!” and meaning it. I’m saying disagree with me. Take me to task. Challenge me. Whip me into shape. I’m saying I’m working on it. I’m trying things out. I’m putting it out there and seeing if I believe what I say. I’m saying I don’t know. Anything. At all. But I can sure get opinionated anyway.